In life, in order to get what you want or need you have to be willing to “ask for it.”
Somewhere along the line, as young girls grow up, that message tends to get lost. We don’t want to be categorized as ‘demanding’, as ‘high-maintenance’, or even labeled (our least favorite word) a….‘bi**h’!
But the truth is, other people will rarely care as much about our needs and desires as we do. Especially because they have their own to worry about! We owe it to ourselves to ask for what it is we want – whether that is in a relationship, a friendship, a career, etc. It’s up to us to create the life that we envision for ourselves.
When you get clear about what you want and need, become brave enough to ask for it!
Here are some tips when it comes to asking for what it is you want:
Don’t Assume Others Can Read Your Mind
We often assume our spouses, bosses, coworkers and even our best friends can read our minds. So when they don’t act or respond the way we wish they would have, we wind up hurt and upset. For any relationship – whether it be a friend, a family member, or even a colleague — to flourish, both parties have to take responsibility for clearly communicating what it is they need.
There is never harm in asking because rarely, if ever, will you be given more than what you have the courage to ask for. Don’t let the fear of being turned down impact what it is that you’re asking for. Be direct, honest, and upfront.
Don’t Take “No” Personally
I hate to be the one to have to break it to you, but you’re not always going to get what you ask for. You will hear “no” hundreds of times throughout your lifetime. Don’t take it personally. At least now you know where things stand and you can plan accordingly – either move on, or adjust a bit.
You can’t always change your situation immediately, but you can change the way you look at it. One of those ways is by being grateful for what it is that you do have in life. “Gratitude turns what we have into enough” – Melodie Beattie
Now go out there, and go after what you want!